Commonly Asked Questions by Guests [input links to actual questions below on page]

How do I find out about upcoming open events?
Should I contact someone before coming to an open event?
Why would I sign up to become a guest on WDSC’s website?
Who is WDSC? Willow? Outer Circle?
What is a token? How do I get one? 
If I become a guest, can attend WDSC Full Moons and Classes?
Are group events family friendly? Is there separate events for children?
Is there a fee events?
Can we guests bring guests?
I’ve never been to a pagan event and I have questions about what ritual is, who do I contact? 
What should I wear to events?
This is my first event with Willow or my first pagan event ever, what should I expect?
Is there an alcohol or drug policy?

Commonly Asked Questions About WDSC Community Outreach

I heard that Willow, WDSC, runs a food pantry. Is that true?
How do I get food from the food pantry?
What if I have other needs that need to be met?
Does WDSC give back to the community?
Is there a way to volunteer for events through Willow?
If I have an idea for an event or would like to ask Willow to participate in an event, who would I contact?
Is this Rev. Lydia M N Crabtree (aka Dia Crabtree), the pagan author’s coven/community/church?

Commonly Asked Questions About Becoming a Member in WDSC

Above, the answers talked about “vetting” guests, what does that mean?
What things should I consider before I think about joining Willow?
What are the expectations when you become a member?
What does membership mean?
What are the benefits of membership?
Is there a fee for membership?
How does the group protect members?
What is the process if there is a complaint made about someone in the Inner Circle or Leadership?

Basic Terminology

Maybe a basic terminology list – like what does casting circle mean, calling quarter

 

Commonly Asked Questions by Guests

How do I find out about upcoming open events?  If you want to find out about open events, you simply have to go the Calendar on this website. This calendar will give you an opportunity to put all WDSC open events into your phone or on the calendar program of your choice. The choice of events range from social meetings at local restaurants, crafting days to work on your favorite craft or Book of Shadows, and open Sabbats.
Should I contact someone before coming to an open event? YES! You need to contact by mail or phone someone in WDSC to confirm your attendance at open events. They are going to want to ensure that you have read The Big 5 Rules, What to Expect, and Ritual Etiquette. This can be the Social Coordinate [insert email link here] or Lady Dia [insert email link here].
Why would I sign up to become a guest on WDSC’s website? As a guest you will be able to see when classes and Full Moon events are being held and be eligible to join the free 1st Degree Program available on this site. When you are approved your calendar will automatically let you see all the events that COULD BE available to you. As a guest, you can only attend classes and Full Moons after receiving a Token from a member in good standing with Willow. Further you will receive special announcements concerning Willow special events via email. For example, when Willow is hosting a special guest speaker and class that is only available through WDSC.
Who is WDSC? Willow? Outer Circle?WDSC stands for Willow Dragonstone Community & Coven, Inc. Willow is another name for WDSC, specifically the Outer Circle of WDSC. The Outer Circle is the community at large comprised of all general members. Therefore, on this site and when speaking to Willites (general members of Willow); WDSC and Willow are used interchangeably. The Outer Circle refers to all general members in Willow. There is more on this topic on Who is WDSC? and Who is DSFC?
What is a token? How do I get one? A token is a small wooden disk or some other small object that represents to WDSC that you have been invited to Full Moons and Classes by a member in good standing. You can only receive a token from a general member in good standing after you have been thoroughly vetted and been to three open events.
If I become a guest, can attend WDSC Full Moons and Classes? No. In order to attend WDSC Full Moons and Classes you MUST be vetted by someone from WDSC. Currently that is being done by Lady Dia and Tony Crabtree. once you have been vetted, you must attend at least three open events and then receive a token to attend Full Moons and Classes. Persons who come to Full Moons and Classes without a token will be asked to leave the event and wait until they have been properly vetted and given a token by a member in good standing with WDSC.
Are group events family friendly? Is there separate events for children? We try to make our events as welcoming of children as we can. There is no alcohol served during any rituals. Ritual Nudity (Skyclad [on page link to definitions]) is not permitted at Willow rituals. We have a box of legos and paper goods that we readily provide to children to help keep them entertained. Additionally, Willow believes that your Family Coven [link on page to definitions] should always be your top priority. We encourage families to read the Ritual Etiquette with Children on this website.
Is there a fee for events? Typically there is no fee for classes or events at Willow; however, depending on the working special needs may arise. We encourage you to read every event information carefully on the Calendar page. All the information will be located here about what is and is not needed for the event. All attendees are expected to contribute a food offering or other offering at events. Reading What to Expect, is an excellent place to see what other types of offerings can be made. This energetic offering is important as it represents how important the event and community is to you. 
Occasionally, however, there may be a need to collect an event fee because of the cost of the event. For example, if we do a labyrinth or maypole both require funds to purchase ribbon, candles, sand and bags for the event. A collection may be made before ritual to offset these costs. Unfortunately members of Willow have not yet become independently wealthy and therefore, cannot provide everything for free to everyone. When there is a fee it is typically no more than $5.00. Again, this information will be clearly stated on the Event page in the Calendar.
Can we guests bring guests? No. Guests are approved for themselves and their immediate households. This includes house mates, other partners in poly, children, spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, and/or roommates. Outside of this, guests must encourage additional persons to contact Willow so that we can ensure they are aware of the The Big 5 Rules, What to Expect, and Ritual Etiquette.
I’ve never been to a pagan event and I have questions about what ritual is, who do I contact?  If you are coming to a ritual you have already talked to Lady Dia [email link here] or Lord Eochair [email link to tonycrabtree42@gmail.com]. You can review What to Expect and Ritual Etiquette. to get some more insight. If you still have questions, direct them to Lady Dia [email link here] or Lord Eochair [email link to tonycrabtree42@gmail.com].
What should I wear to events? Social events are great places to wear whatever makes you happiest. There are no rules in Willow about what to wear. On the What to Expect page it says:
Most groups could tell you exactly what to wear. However, WDSC believes in no dogma of practice or belief. What you might notice right away is that there are all types of people at Willow. We like to say that if you have problems with race, sexual orientation, gender presentations, polyamory or, even, Christianity, Willow IS NOT the place for you! Consequently there will be all manner of dress. Many of our guys like to wear kilts. And many of our girls have long purple dresses to wear. This doesn’t mean they will be wearing that, just that people in kilts and purple dress are often members of Willow. You can wear, and should wear, whatever makes you comfortable. There is no “right” or “wrong” dress.
This is my first event with Willow or my first pagan event ever, what should I expect? This question is so common that we have devoted an entire page to answering it. Please read What to Expect
Is there an alcohol or drug policy? YES! Willow rituals are drug and alcohol free. This means that we respectfully request that participants do not use mind or mood altering substances before attending ritual or while they are at a ritual event with Willow. Further Willow requests that when alcohol is permitted at social events or ritual events, that guests and general members not imbibe to the point of intoxication. Willow finds this can lead to dangerous situations. 

Commonly Asked Questions About WDSC Community Outreach

I heard that Willow, WDSC, runs a food pantry. Is that true? Yes! WDSC (Willow) asks everyone who attends Sabbat events to bring one canned good. Excess canned food is taken to a multi faith based food kitchen. Primarily, Willow’s food pantry has been run to help pagans specifically.
How do I get food from the food pantry? To gain food goods from the food pantry complete the Assistance Form  [insert need form that is sent to Chalice Officer to the new email set up; chaliceofficer@willowdragonstonecommunity.org] and our Chalice Officer will see to your needs as soon as possible.
What if I have other needs that need to be met? Willow has successfully helped many pagan families sort out everything from gaining state help, food assistance and generally getting out of problems that can seem overwhelming. Our Chalice Officer [insert need form that is sent to the Chalice Officer to the new email set up; chaliceofficer@willowdragonstonecommunity.org] has been trained and collecting all types of resources that you may not even be aware of. Please complete our Assistance Form and our Chalice Officer will contact you.
Does WDSC give back to the community? Through our Chalice program Willow gives back to the community on a yearly basis. In 2017, Willow provided food and other services to seven individual families. The Chalice Program has been the most successful program Willow has had in its five years of existence. Additionally, for five years Willow has adopted a family who was found through social workers in Gwinnett County. We don’t just give one or two presents to the families we adopt. We have been able to give multiple gifts of food and some fun to every member of the family. That is four to five persons per year that wouldn’t have Yule gifts if Willow didn’t exist.
Is there a way to volunteer for events through Willow? Simply look at the Calendar on this website. You don’t even have to be a member or guest to see what events are happening.
If I have an idea for an event or would like to ask Willow to participate in an event, who would I contact? You should definitely contact Willow’s Social Events Coordinator [insert a link to send an email to new email address socialevents@willowdragonstonecommunity.org.] They can look over the entire calendar for Willow and determine if Willow has the time and interest of general members to participate.
Is this Rev. Lydia M N Crabtree (aka Dia Crabtree), the pagan author’s coven/community/church? Yes! Lydia M N Crabtree was one of the three women who originally did the magic that lead to this group. However, her participation and views shouldn’t be considered what Willow is about or is. If you would like to contact Dia about her writing or a special appearance, please go to her website.

Commonly Asked Questions About Becoming a Member in WDSC

Above, the answers talked about “vetting” guests, what does that mean? Vetting is the process by which Willow ensures that it is only allowing persons to participate who are genuine and seem to be relatively stable and safe. This typically means that the potential Guest will complete a form [insert form link] then will meet with Lady Dia or another member of the Vetting Committee to review The Big 5 Rules, What to Expect, and Ritual Etiquette in person. Further guests must attend at least five open events before being allowed to attend classes or Full Moons. This is to further ensure that a person is compatible with the group. Willow is looking for people with pure intent and motives and a driving desire to spiritual grow and develop. In order to spiritually grow and develop, persons must be malleable to the gods and goddesses. We find people who have dogmatic ways of thinking, feeling or being often have conflict in the long run with Willow.
Further there is a year probation if you become a general member. The common saying in Willow is, “It takes a year for the crazy to come out.” Now your crazy may be compatible with Willow’s crazy and if it is not, you should part ways with Willow in a respectful manner.
What things should I consider before I think about joining Willow? Before becoming a general member you try to understand the following things:
  1. Willow’s reason for existence is wrapped around education of general pagan principles.
  2. As you study general pagan principles, you may find that you are growing and changing. You may feel differently than before. You may view people in your life in different ways. You may view everything from your sexuality to your identity differently. This is not something Willow does to you. It is something that happens because you have agreed to get education in a group. It is invariable as part of any group dynamics.
  3. Group dynamics (any group dynamics) often says that the group itself will follow predictable patterns. Humans are creatures of habit and attracted to what they know and are comfortable with. Within a coven or pagan community group dynamic, it has often been observed that persons will choose a group often because the leaders reflect, for good or ill, the main authority figures in a person’s life – their parents. If you have a wonderful life with your parents and have no problems with them whatsoever then there shouldn’t be problem for you in any pagan dynamic. However, if you have a more human relationship with your parents, you should be aware that issues you have with your parents could manifest again within Willow should you join.  This phenomena is directly linked to the first law of magic: To Know. Knowledge of Self is the greatest knowledge we can obtain. If we join a spiritual group and then expect that there will be nothing about our interpersonal relationships we may have to deal with – we are seriously deluding ourselves. Magick first manifests as the knowing. What don’t you know about how you deal with others? What do you need to learn about dealing with others. Being part of a spiritual group is going to make you face those whether you want to or not. Joining a group isn’t just about gaining the power of the group for your needs and desires, it is also about reveal in yourself a deep knowing and understanding.
  4. This could mean that in one year, two years or more you may realize Willow is no longer for you. Maybe you chose Willow because Lady Dia reminded you of the mother you had or never had. Either way, Willow and the work of learning basic pagan principles can be overshadowed by the remnants of a toxic relationship you carry into the group. Sometimes the best way forward may be leaving the group to disassociate from familiar but destructive relationship patterns.
  5. If leadership can energetically and magically represent your parents in Willow, then you should see all the other general members as siblings. This means that any sibling rivalry or issues will manifest inside Willow for you. Willites are to each sand paper against the diamond of our souls. Each Willite for good and ill will rub every other Willite in an attempt for the Divinity to reveal the very best of you and other Willites. This means, that being a general member may mean that you MUST look at interpersonal and inter-relational issues in yourself. You may be required to view issues in Willow from a point of view that is uncomfortable for many.
What are the expectations when you become a member?
What does membership mean?
What are the benefits of membership?
Is there a fee for membership?
How does the group protect members?
What is the process if there is a complaint made about someone in the Inner Circle or Leadership?

Basic Terminology